Finding joy in the little things

Life is full of big moments —graduations, promotions, weddings, and celebrations. But as I get older, I’ve come to realize that real joy often lives in the smallest moments, the ones that we sometimes overlook. It’s the way the light filters through the trees in the morning, the first sip of coffee that warms your soul, or a quiet walk in nature that clears your mind. In a world that celebrates big achievements, there’s something precious about finding happiness in the little things.

A few months ago, I found myself in a bit of a rut. Life was busy, work coming with early morning and late nights, stressful, and I was constantly feeling like I was running on empty on a constant, found myself asking myself very many questions . One Saturday morning on my day off, exhausted and mentally drained, I decided to go for a walk. I had no destination in mind; I just wanted to get outside and clear my head.

As I wandered, I noticed a small pond I’d never really been to with geesļæ¼ swimming away, water so placid and calming. There was a young gentleman sitting by the water bank and watching the water flow. All that could run through my head was what is he going through? was he in the same boat as I was? in a winding loop like I am ? Made me think of how much we needed to take time off to just think recuperate and move on. And in the moment my mind changed like a little switch of anxiety had been turned off and I wasn’t thinking about my to-do list or what I ā€œshouldā€ be doing; I was simply enjoying the moment. And for the first time in a while, I felt genuinely at peace because everything just felt all so quiet.

That morning taught me an important lesson: joy isn’t something you have to chase. Often, it’s right there, hidden in plain sight, waiting for you to slow down and notice it.

In today’s fast-paced world, we’re constantly bombarded with images of ā€œidealā€ lives and grand achievements. It’s easy to believe that happiness lies somewhere down the road, in the next big promotion, the next relationship, or the next vacation, or even a big pay check But by focusing only on what’s next, we overlook the beauty of what’s here and now.

This mindset leads us to miss the small, magical moments that can make a bad day bearable or turn an ordinary day into a good one. The simple things—a smile from a stranger, the warmth of the sun on your face, a favorite song coming on the radio or even from a playlist that you curated —these are often the moments that bring genuine happiness, and I can tell you I do not know how much I have missed out on by focusing will I make it and yet I could be enjoying the moment that I am served with .

Learning to appreciate the small things in life doesn’t require a complete lifestyle overhaul. It’s about making small shifts in your mindset and daily habits. Here are a few ways I’ve learned to bring more awareness and appreciation into my life:

We should find little things that make us see the joy in simplicity like creating small routines that we can follow for example journaling, reading a book , praying, these things can help us structure our days, express gratitude,unplug and look around We’re so often glued to our screens that we miss what’s happening right in front of us. Try putting your phone away when you’re in public spaces or spending time with loved ones, and be fully present.

Find peace in simplicity, Life will always have its ups and downs, and there will always be moments that test us. But by grounding ourselves in the simple joys of everyday life, we can cultivate a sense of peace and contentment that doesn’t depend on external achievements or grand events.

Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, try looking around. Find something small—something quiet, something real. Maybe it’s the sound of rain on the roof, or the warmth of a favorite blanket trust you me I know this feeling .These small moments are life’s way of reminding us that joy is always within reach, right here, in the present.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that ā€œlife’s big moments are rare, but the little moments are everywhereā€Happiness isn’t just in the peaks of life; it’s in the everyday moments that we sometimes forget to savor. Today, take a moment to appreciate something small. Life is beautiful in its simplicity, and sometimes, all we need to do is slow down and see it.

ITS HARD BUT IT GETS BETTER KEEP PUSHING

How is it that you can love someone with all your heart, soul and mind even when you know they do not like any bit about you. It Baffles me to know that the one you love doesn’t love you back as much as you do them.

Why is it that someone would neglect someone who Genuinely loves them, treats them like the queen and king that they are, cares for them like they ought to be cared for, for a person who doesn’t even give them the attention they are supposed to be given, a person who treats them like they are trash, a person who doesn’t give little shit whether they are okay or not I bet they would even care if you are breathing or not, a person who constantly disrespects them.

Funny how they all know that they aren’t needed in that persons life, they are just not enough for that person, they can’t match up to the standards of that person, but still choose to stay. Why ? Why would you stay in a place where you aren’t wanted, a place where one constantly makes you feel like your not enough, a place where a person makes you doubt your worth countless times, a place where you have to be someone else to please that person, fit into different skin and character that is not yours just to please their needs, why their needs? Why not your needs ? It is hard to move on but sweet heart you have to go. Move move darling it’s time to move

I know sometimes you miss them, you want to text them and tell them how you are doing, basically update them about how your doing, some of you have texted the person already others you have typed and deleted the messages that you were meant to send to that person, you want to call them and talk for hours and hours with this person but darling let me ask you one question ā€œare they doing the same for you ? Are they checking up on you? Are they calling in to see how you are doing ? Then if they aren’t doing that, then why are you doing that?

It’s hard to run a relationship that is one sided it breaks you as a person, breaks your self esteem, makes you doubt yourself and your worth and this is not good for you mentally, physically, emotionally, and sometimes economically. Darling do not loose yourself trying to find something that doesn’t want to be found or trying to mend a relationship which isn’t worth it.

It’s not a good place to be at not knowing where you belong in someone’s life, that’s one, but the greatest relief is after you have known, how fast can you reorganize yourself to make sure your where your supposed to be? One of the hardest things to do is to move on from a place where you realise you aren’t wanted because all these questions come rushing in on what you did, it’s really unfair basically complains but complains are not going to fix the problem, they are just giving you a room for self pity and being in a place of being hurt but all these won’t help. It’s hard very hard but ask yourself one thing ā€œwhat’s lessons have I learnt through this entire period ?ā€. I think they would help you move forward

The depression, the hardest times and the crying come in but one thing is for sure , healing is taking place because of the acceptance that you have given yourself. Keep moving one keep fighting to see that in as much as we want to please the ones we love , our happiness come first , ā€œself loveā€ is so crucial .

So to whoever is out there and your hurting, your struggling to let go, darling ,king, queen, princess, prince it hurts but at the end it gets better. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Simple

INVISIBLE TEARS AND PAIN

There are those times when you want to scream aloud so that it can trigger the pain to leave your heart. Have you been hurt by the one you love the most

Tears rolling out of eyes everyday for the one I love, I really want to get angry at them but the love I have for them over weighs my anger towards them

What kind of love is this ? Where the person you love the most is the one who gets to hurt you . Change is what they need, patience with them they say. But how long will it last, how long will the pillow comfort you

No one to talk to, emptiness, hurt, pain, so quiet I burry my pain in my chest and my pillow, phone, earphones because they are the only things that understand what pain i am feeling

Let go and be happy, how much longer will you keep being patient, how long will you stay quiet, how long will I desperately want a hug that I can’t attain. Just for the sake of the one I love. They say love is patient love is kind, love Supperced everything but what kind of live will that be for me to loose myself trying to find the one that says they love me

My heart is tired of holding on but the words you say keep me going but now that they are also gone what else shall I hold onto ? So I decide to quiet myself and see where life takes me but these invisible tears and pain I carry are now so much for me to hold on to . I need rest

A LIGHT SHOULD NOT BE HIDDEN LET IT SHINE

I think talent is something supposed to be cherished and treasured. Talent makes us who we are, it’s that other side that makes us whole it’s more like it makes us who we are.

I do not know who this is for, but do not suppress who you are just because of what people say and the people around us please do not force someone to push out that side of them that makes them whole. Let me tell you a little story I hope I get to touch a soul or a person about this,

A friend I know has a talent in music ohhh she is really Good really Good and to think it’s a family thing that all had this music thing running in the family, but growing up her guardians always asked her to concentrate on books and focus on books but I mean music is what makes her whole, she is asked to suppress this side of herself, so she goes to school fails in most of her classes and literally has no love for any other thing, she’s not good with sports, has few friends and literally is a mess in school but he goes through it and passed that grade

But surprisingly when she goes to the next grade she kinda disobeys her guardians and goes back to her music thing and boom things begin to fall back in place ā€œAll work no play makes Jack a dull boyā€ they say. basically that play she deserved is music and she was back to the grid good grades and all and she passed with flying colors.

I am not saying you literally allow your child to take up their talent completely but I believe communication is keys when it comes to children. if you do not clearly communicate something then information will be perceived differently. Parents, guardians, that talent that you see growing within your child no matter how small it may be, nature it in the best way you can because it’s what makes them whole and makes them who they are. Talk to them they will listen but the more you push them out by being controlling is the more they push away from you

So support them in anyway that you can as a parent that’s all they need to know. They need to know your going to be there for them no matter what comes their way.

Anyways I hope that we be the best of ourselves. Stay safe and God bless you all

MY MOST VALUABLE PLAYER

Happy birthday nation
P.o.box.i love you(143 Zion)

Dear mama,
Thinking of you
I drift off to further understand
Selflessness,love,humility
Fruits from love of God and fellowship with He(that teaches all, knows all )
Holyspirit

Not sure”mama.”is the 1st word i said..
But am sure after God knew me
He chose your womb to be my place
Of solitude
54 years ago a nation
Was born
And today we celebrate
Its people smile in cheer
Joyful in tear
Tear


A tear
With a smile also
And luke will still say
Am beautiful☺
26th august 2003
Your beautiful baby girl
Got her farewell spank(courtesy of plan unpack mama’s stuff)
And a hug has always spoken a fresh understanding of love..
Love love…


Nation ohh nation
My nation
God uphold thee surely
Before you thee trails God trails
Every work He blesses
A glimpse is what we’ ve seen of what He began in you dear nation..
He is sure to complete what he starts…
He Not a man to lie…
Amen……


Your loving,
Baby Girl …….
God bless you mama..
I love you sooo very much..

WOMAN

Woman
In his sleep from his rib you was embedded then
God saw it was good(whole)

Got his rib
Saw she was perfect for him
To be his side by side person
Forever and always will she stand
By him

In a generation where she beats the odd wears the CEO tag is testimony that the rib was the bud,the seed that grows,the treasure that has ability multiply since she was the origin of multiplication

so she strives hard day and night hustling two jobs one with high heels on and another with flip flops all this to make it
She does all this to measure up To the standard but she’s told she can’t make it something likeā€abakyala bakukola ewakkaā€ women should only work at home

As she toils to measure up to her standard their yells convincing her standard to theirs that says she isn’t good enough .

Woman
Oh woman
A teacher and the 1st classroom God places us in(ur womb)after
He has known us
A 9month semester of kicks from the best footballers even Muhammed Ali was in went through ur class and see how far ur teaching and persistence got him because u chose to be a mother

Woman
a stature,caliber, race, an origin is stepped on, trampled on
made to feel the least in society,
Yet a reservoir to withhold pain, abuse,torture
At point break she falls down on her knees to pray for the world .
Ohh the gift that’s embedded within her utter most and deepest parts no creature would understand
But woman they shall always know about…


But despite all this they know about women
They still are the least looked upon. Woman should be royalty she’s a princess in the eyes of the beholder so why don’t you see it

Even the great shaka,a warrior mourned and had everyone he knew drop a tear
I can’t help but wonder
What treasure you carry
A woman
a kind that
seeketh the face of the lord
Strength and honour her clothing
For her case a man of God must leave his father’s house that she might multiply everything that has to do with him

Woman
royalty
A generation
An additive to demonstrate value to existence
a royal priesthood she’s a princess in the eyes of He
That has an understanding for
Treasure
Her keeper and beholder(he knows beauty) see it
In her or see it in her…
She is a woman.

LIFE AND VALUE

John C Maxwell in his book intentional living says ā€œIn life, it is not what we get that makes us valuable. It is what we become in the process that brings value to our lives.ā€

Talk about life and what it has to give, what questions coming running into your brain ? Trust me a lot of questions coming rushing in like why, what, where, how, who etc. but what makes sense is the fact that you have breath right ? It’s funny how life is like the best teacher for us all. Great people, successful people have a big story to tell you about how they got to that success .

Some of these include AlbertSchweitzer, Franklin, Dr. Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, Clara Barton, Albert Einstein, Sigmund fraud, Helen Keller and many more, Some of these great and successful men and women were discovered to have come from poverty struck homes, difficult parents, a broken home, some of them were rejected, lived with parents who Were over possessive, psychological torture by their parents fighting all the time But they all managed to make it to the top and becoming the best at what they do and are now known worldwide as great men and women in history

But question is ā€œHOWā€they made it to the top trust me you, the stories they have to tell are tremendous and life changing. It was hard, it was tiring, But despite all they went through they still made it to the top because of strength, support, discipline, character and so many So this is my question to you ā€œwhat are you making life be to youā€

Despite what life brings before you, are you going to fall or rise up and dust yourself and keep fighting every single day, they say nothing comes to us on a silver plata and I used to believe it was the privileged that connected well with this statement because it seemed to me like they received everything on a Silver plata but a person I know told me that ā€œno matter how much property, money, privileges that your parents or family hold, it’s not yours until you make your very ownā€ and understand the way work is, it makes more sense to eat off your own labor it’s satisfying

Life is a great teacher actually life is the greatest teacher and I believe and can say that our lives are a daily lesson to us living, so today is today tomorrow is tomorrow , what can we do with what we have availed to us I believe that with every opportunity that we have daily we can make it our best to better our selves and the people around us

The statement at the top makes so much sense now ā€œit’s what we become in the process that brings value to our livesā€ . All these people we look up to ā€œI want to be like this person when I grow up we keep sayingā€ but do we sit down to ask what happened, what became of them to be the person they are if so then, are we ready to give up some things we love, to strive hard every waking day, to better ourselves in the best ways possible to really be the best. When doing something make sure you do it to your best

Life is life put God first and all the rest shall fall in line but be the best at what you are doing

A Special Tribute to the Mothers

So today is Mother’s Day . And we celebrate them because they are special persons on this earth and for our families. Mothers out there are so enthusiastic, resilient, caring, loving some times i even loose words that can best describe mothers because if not for them so much would be a mess

A loved one once told me that mothers never forgets their children and even go a head to remembers all the children they have buried that’s how strong a bond of a mother is

Mothers out there struggle day in day out tirelessly to make sure their child is happy on a daily. So shout out to all mothers out there in what capacities they hold they all are SPECIAL

Not forgetting even the ones that are already gone. The fact that your gone doesn’t mean that we seize to remember your existence. Trust me even when your not around you still remain strongest in our hearts and lives. We still hold you in highest regards for the support, care, tireless nights that you put up to make the family happy.

To the mothers soon becoming, we pray that you never stop being the bridge to the family, to the community. To the women out there please never stop being you. Be a light, be a bridge, be an anchor, never stop or seize falling on your knees to pray for the family not just the family only but for other women, for the community, for the church,for your husbands, for your children and trust me things will never be the same